Fun fact #6: I’ve been listening to a lot of different opini.. (OnlyFans)

Fun fact #6: I’ve been listening to a lot of different opinions and outlooks lately. Being so stuck in my own little community keeps me from expanding my mind. Last week, as some of you may know, someone close to me challenged my purpose behind working in this industry. I have never, ever looked into the liberal fem side of this world, so I was shocked to read what I was reading. I thought everyone was accepting of sex work! 

Well, that’s not true. I knew it existed but I didn’t know the extent of these beliefs. I never took time to read the, sometimes aggressive, language of the other side. My bubble is so full of amazing women and supporters of the community that it’s easy to think the entire works operates this way because it’s all that I see. 

Anywho, I let them take me down! Mentally, physically, emotionally. It took me getting to a dark place of rethinking why I’m here and what I stand for. That tough conversation brought forth so much growth. The days following were hard for me. I needed to legit take THREE whole days completely alone to seriously wrap my head about what was being said and how I felt about it. It was very emotional, it involved many tears and even a couple of screams. I knew that I needed to be honest with myself, something that was harder than expected. 

But I came out stronger and more driven to show up for the entirety of my community. I feel more grounded in my purpose now. I know why I’m here. I know what I bring to the table. And I’m more honest with myself than ever before. 

Without the opposing view, I wouldn’t be where I’m now at mentally. 

And without loving friends holding me accountable and keeping the honest conversations going I wouldn’t be able to achieve such a grounded state.

Moral of the story: be conscious of your bubble. Is it too coddling? Does it promote growth, challenge, and conversation? Can you handle the opposing side? If not, why? Learn more about the experiences of others so you can better show up for yourself, your community, and your own values.