SISSY TIPS & ADVICE ---------------------------------- My op.. (OnlyFans)

SISSY TIPS & ADVICE
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My opinion on Finding a female partner and Findom.

I understand that most of us Sissies are desperate to find a girl that wants to own them and guide them on their path of sissyfication. But we all know girls who are into sissyfication are rare. So we often lean towards the Online dommes out there for comfort / guidance or to fill the deep desires we have inside ourselves. We look for online female dommes and we quickly realize that there are none. Almost all girls out there call themselves ''Findomme'' and you even have to pay them money before talking to them.

But this is not the correct path sissy. 

1. Why I hate Findom
Let me start with saying that I do believe that a Mistress should be spoiled and that supporting sexworkers is an amazing thing to do. They all deserve to be paid for the amazing and exciting content they share with the world. But Findom is something different. 

Findom or Financial domination means just that. They want your money and thats it. They abuse our submissive state and try to get as much money from you in return for nothing. If you're in luck, they might copy/paste you an assignment or call you a few mean words. There is no passion for BDSM in Findom. Findom is taking money from lonely submissive people and abusing them. The sad part of this is that the desire to finally talk with a girl who is a domme, to finally feel what it's like to be owned is too strong. They know it and they take advantage of it. 

All those Mistress bots on KiK and other platforms should ring alarm bells about how big this business actually is. There are litterly female domme bots out there designed to take your money and ask for ''tributes''.

I once got invited to join a group chat on telegram for Onlyfans models where they do ''shoutout for shoutouts'' and things like that. And what I saw there shocked me. They laughed at you, but not in a bdsm kind of way. None of them enjoyed what they are doing, all of them are pure business. They send screenshots of your private messages with them. One that really stuck in my mind was a findom who had a $50 Pay-to-view message with 1 picture in it and someone bought the message. The photo was a black picture. Nothing in it. 
She shared the screenshot in the group and everyone started laughing and cheering that girl on. 

That is the harsh truth. They only care about your money. Most of it is 100% business and 0% passion. 

And I don't really care much about these Findommes, but I care a lot about the community that made me who I am today and I do feel like a warning for this is in place.

In Belgium and the Netherlands, Findom is extremely popular. It is growing every single day. Every day you see more and more girls joining social media with an account that has the words ''Pay me loser'' or something like that in it. A Findom who do earns some money this way, tells their friends its easy money, and they tell their friends and it spreads like wildfire. The amount of 18 year olds out here doing Findom is insane. 

And if you can't do BDSM correctly (like most findoms who do it for $) it is not BDSM but it is abuse.

On a positive note, 1% of these Findommes actually learn and  improve and take it seriously. They develop a true passion for BDSM and grow out of Findom. (Note : I still think a Goddess deserves to be paid or tributed, they spend time and effort into you) But in my mind, a Findomme who is begging for money on twitter in the form of ''Pay for my coffee'' , ''pay for my siggarets'' , ''pay for my dead cats urn'' (yes, this truely happend today) , isn't a Goddess. That's an abuser of submissive lonely people desperate for attention.

In my opinion, FINDOM doesn't exist. It's just FEMDOM. A female dominatrix who owns you, and where you also have a financial agreement with. That is all fine. But FINDOM? Just taking your money and that's it? That's destructive.

I am not kink shaming here. Atleast that's not my intention. I don't think that Findom is a kink even. I think its an evil addiction at best. 

Don't believe for 1 second that there is a girl who actually gets turned on when you send her money. I could say ''receiving money turns me on soo much hmmmmm'' aswell. ''Of course it does''.

Another problem I have with Findom is the abuse and the hatred towards men. The very men who give them their hard earned money. They make you feel like nothing. Not in a BDSM kinda way, but in an abusive kinda way. 

A real Dominatrix, makes you feel submissive but builds you up and helps you to fullfill your deepest desires. You need to build sissies up. Not break them down!! 

2. But I desperatly want a partner! What should I do?

I don't want to tell you what to do with your own money of course. But, how about instead of sending a $50 tribute to a passionless findomme in return for a few words, you instead get yourself an amazing dress, or go to a beauty saloon to get your leggs waxed, or save up for an IPL laser hair removal device.

What i'm trying to say is, invest into yourself instead. Build yourself up. Be the person you want to be. You can do it. Workout, buy a cute dress, learn make-up, learn about hair removal, do hair removal, chastity, you name it. 
Once you start investing in yourself and you become a good sissy, you will notice that there are tons of girls and guys out there willing to use you. THAT is the correct path to go down on sissies. 

If you have an owner, of course you should spoil them and treat them like the goddess they are! But not at the cost of your own dreams. (In my opinion)

3. Stop hiding and you will find someone

Stop hiding little sissy. Stop being ashamed and be proud of what you are. Make a dating profile and just be honest about who you are and what you enjoy. 

You don't need to immediatly confess that you like to be in chastity and fucked by big cocks of course. But take it easy! For example ''In the bedroom, I like to lose control, I am actually more the submissive type of person in the bedroom'' You can often immediatly tell by their reaction if they like it or not. Some people are just not open minded and some are. You just need to keep on looking. But you can't search for someone that likes the real you, if you are too ashamed to be the real you.

4. How to confess to your partner

Princess Diamonds and me think that the best way to tell your partner you are into sissyfication is to do it step by step. The problem with most confessions is that they are ''topped from the bottom'' this means, that most confessions start like ''this is what I like, this is what I want, this is what I need'' but in BDSM, it is about what your partner likes and wants is it not? So you should not tell them what you like and bombard them with your fantasy or desires that you want them to fullfill. Instead, you should just treat them like a prince/princess. Tell them that you enjoy to spoil them! Do the dishes for them, rub their feet, who can say no to that?! Slowly you can tell them that you actually enjoy this new position in your relationship and that you would like to explore it further. 

That is a way better approach and that is the one we recommend.

I am sorry if my opinion about Findom isn't one you agree one. I don't want to offend anyone or shame anyone. I only want the very best for my fellow sissies

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Joyce