We sense that something is wrong, but we are not able to say.. (OnlyFans)

We sense that something is wrong, but we are not able to say exactly what it is. We make some effort to escape, but we cannot. We try to deny our suffering, but it persists. To suffer and not know that we are suffering is more painful than the burden endured by a mule carrying an unimaginably heavy load. If you know how to suffer, you suffer less instantly.  

Before we can transform our sufferings/ill-being into well-being, the first step is to recognize our suffering as suffering.  We must, first of all, recognize that we are suffering and then determine whether its basis is physical, physiological, or psychological. Our suffering needs to be identified.

We need to embrace our fear, hatred, anguish, depression, hopelessness and anger. “My dear suffering, I know you are there. I am here for you,

Step 1: suffering is recognized and embraced with tenderness. (in your mind you say something like  "Hi, my dear anger/depression etc, I know you are here. I am here to take care of you", or "there is a suffering in me")